How to Talk to Your Elderly Parents About Wills and Funeral Arrangements
Courtesy of Brooke Chaplan
While you certainly love your parents and want them to remain part of your life as long as possible, you know the day will come when they will pass away. Though certainly not a pleasant thought, it will be crucial that certain end-of-life plans already be in place, such as a will and funeral arrangements. While these are not easy subjects to discuss with your parents, doing so well ahead of time will save everyone lots of heartache and potential legal difficulties later on. If you want to have this conversation with your elderly parents but need help getting started, here are some tips to use along the way.
Focus on Their Legacy
To put your parents at ease, always start the conversation by focusing on their legacy and how much you appreciate having them in your life. By doing so, you can then transition to asking about their final wishes and how they would like to have certain things done upon their passing, such as inheritances and the distribution of other assets.
In talking to your parents about wills and funerals, you can also point out that by pre-planning their funeral arrangements and creating a will ahead of time, this will help avoid any disputes after they have died. This can be important, especially if numerous relatives will be left behind. If they agree, you can then schedule an appointment with a will attorney to discuss your situation in greater detail.
Don’t Give Orders
If you come at your parents as if you are ordering them to create a will immediately and also decide each and every detail of their funeral arrangements, chances are they will not want to discuss the subject with you. Rather than make this mistake, sit down with them at a time when all of you are relaxed and have plenty of uninterrupted time to discuss these important matters.
Carrying Out Their Wishes
Finally, emphasize to your parents that you want to make sure their final wishes are carried out just as they want. This will often convince them to start the planning process. Since your parents love you, framing the conversation in this manner will help them feel as if creating a will and pre-planning their funeral arrangements will be one final act of love they can give you and other family members.
By taking the initiative and discussing these delicate subjects with your parents as soon as possible, all of you will gain tremendous peace of mind.
Brooke Chaplan is a freelance writer and blogger. She lives and works out of her home in Los Lunas, New Mexico. She loves the outdoors and spends most of her time hiking, biking, and gardening. For more information, contact Brooke via Facebook at facebook.com/brooke.chaplan or Twitter @BrookeChaplanTags: inheritance, wills